Some people in your family will come miles to bury you, but won't even cross a street to come support you when you are alive.
Sad but true: One thing i have learned through the years is that just having the same DNA does not make you family. Loyalty and unconditonal LOVE makes you family.
They will drive miles to show up for the memorial service if there is going to be an audience and they will drive those same miles to come get things they want, but never have the time or money to come for a visit not even when you are in the hospital.
The way I look at it if you can not come see me when I am alive then don't come see me when I am dead.